Verbal Abuse of Men - You are NOT alone!

Hi, my name is Terry and I started this Web site because I wanted you to know that you are not alone. There are many men who are victims of verbal abuse. By coming together, we can provide each other support in helping transform ourselves from victims to survivors.

I am a victim of over 9 years of verbal abuse and have finally found the courage to escape from my verbally abusive wife. I must tell you that this was the most difficult decision of my life, to leave someone that I love to protect myself. This was especially difficult for me, as a victim of verbal abuse, who was conditioned for all those years to be controlled rather than to take control. When you make a decision like this, you question your love, but then you realize it is your love that kept you together for all those years. It was because of my love for her that I continued to turn the other cheek, and return love with the belief that love can conquer all. Slowly, though, my feelings progressed from blaming myself every time she got angry or upset, thinking it was all my fault, to feelings of failure at not being able to create a better relationship, to doubts about myself and my own identity, to an empty and lonely desperation, and finally to a debilitating fear, continually triggered by her death threats toward me. Often she accused me of having a girlfriend and told me she would kill me if she found out that I had one (which I do not). After she told family members and friends that she thought I had a girlfriend, I was unable to sleep at night without thinking about the potential violence. I began to feel like a prisoner in a POW camp, always fearful of the master.

Like many verbal abuse victims, I had no awareness of what was happening to me until I was in over my head and did not know how to get out. I was like the frog in the biology experiment that is boiled to death by not realizing that the water is being gradually turned up higher and higher. I would have never believed that I, a retired Air Force officer and motivational speaker, the eternal optimist who was always in control, could ever be manipulated, intimidated, and controlled the way I had been over the past several years. It was like a slow brainwashing, not really knowing what was happening to me until I was experiencing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual problems that I could not explain. As I found help, and learned more about being a victim of verbal abuse, I realized that I had been slowly changed from a strong, positive, happy man to an intimidated, tired, and worn husband who feared his wife like a child fears an abusive parent. It was a bitter pill to swallow. How could this happen to ME? I always thought I was so strong! It took awhile to admit my weakness and accept the cold, stark reality.

When I first became aware of the abuse a few years ago, I searched the Web for help. While I found a lot of Web sites for abused women, I could only find a few references to abused men, acknowledging the fact that we did exist but stating that there was not as much information available about us. I did manage to find a checklist of verbal abuse symptoms from Kansas State University http://www.oznet.ksu.edu/library/famlf2/gt346d.pdf (Note: If a sign in window pops up, click the Cancel button), printed it out, and approached my wife to ask that we discuss this and do something to work through it. As you might have guessed, that just got her angry, nothing was accomplished, and the verbal abuse got worse. From what I read later, verbal abusers seldom admit the abuse.

The more research I continued to do on verbal abuse, the more I realized the hopelessness of my situation. I could answer YES to virtually all of the questions on the Home page of this Web site, plus many more that are not listed. To be honest, it was difficult, as a man who wanted to believe he was spiritually, emotionally and mentally strong, to accept that I had become a victim who lived in fear of his wife. Personally, I found it very humbling, humiliating, and painful to admit that I was a weak victim. I felt like a failure.

When I tried to seek support from people close to me, who did their best to be supportive and kind, I felt that they could not really understand the gravity of the situation. While most acknowledged my wife's abusive behavior, I knew they could not comprehend the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual toll that it took on me. I was near my breaking point but nobody could see the scars. I really felt a kinship with those who wrote all of the desperate letters that I read in books, and on various Web sites, about verbal abuse. Until now, I could not really relate to the desperation, the time when you know your health, and your very life, have been threatened but nobody seems to really understand. I felt very alone.

I guess I couldn't blame others for not relating to me. I was viewed by many as the happy guy who always knew how to handle stress. Up to now, I thought that as well. When my breaking point was reached, the roof caved in on me. I managed to find some supportive Web sites, helpful books (which I have listed on the Helpful Info page of this Web site), and learn the necessity of finding a good counselor with experience in helping verbal abuse victims. I am now in the beginning of my journey to escape the verbal abuse. While I am getting better, I must admit I do have a long way to go to totally recover from so many years of being a victim. I still shudder every time my phone rings, thinking it might be my wife. I still hear her abusive comments and commands in my head as I go about my daily life, finding it difficult to regain control of my own thoughts and actions. I still have nightmares about her being back in my life. In short, I have rather severe symptoms of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), referred to on the Home page of this Web site.

While I am not certain of what the future might bring, I am certain that I made the right decision. The water was near the boiling point and, through the encouragement of family and friends, I was able to jump out before it was too late. I pray that you too will find the courage, and encouragement, to take a positive step toward your own recovery.

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An update: It has now been seven months since I wrote the above description of my situation. While my wife is still the same abusive person she ever was, and is doing everything possible to "make things ugly" during the divorce proceedings, I have managed to get my physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual life back in order. One resource that really helped me understand my situation, and the mind of my abusive wife, was Patricia Evan's book, "The Verbally Abusive Relationship," which is listed on the Helpful Info page of this Web site. In her book, Patricia speaks of two realities. The first is the reality in which most normal people exist, where love can pretty much conquer all, where people kiss and make up and all parties in a disagreement wish to resolve it and go on enjoying life. The second reality is one in which the abuser lives, where there is no desire to resolve anything, because that would give away the abuser's power. I cannot encourage you enough to read this book. When I read it, I felt like Patricia knew my wife, as everything she said in the book seemed to apply to my situation. The book is very well written and, if you are anything like me, will open up your understanding of abusers and help you understand why nothing you ever did seemed to work to help fix your relationship. While my journey through the divorce proceedings is not yet over, I can assure you that you can heal and become the strong person you were before being abused. The key seems to be to completely severe the energy between you by having no contact whatsoever with the abuser.

A reader of this Web site writes:

I just found this website and could relate closely to the developer. I had an epiphany a couple of months ago. I have been living with an emotionally/verbally abusive wife for 25 years and I am ready to pull the pin. I have had a great career and consider myself incredibly blessed. I have been known forever as an encourager and a person with a positive attitude. I have tried to share this information with my wife for years and she would ignore or dismiss my wanting to share. She would always point out my inadequacies, yet enjoy the money from my success in business. She always spent more than I was able to make. I didn't worry, because I felt I could always make more. She was always unhappy and never able to be content. When I tried hard to make her happy, she would move the bar. She would tell me that I needed to do it this way or I should have said it that way. The bottom line message is that it was always my fault. Sexually it was all about control and I was without often because I didn't do or say something right. She needed control and always decided when and where. Abusers don't love necessarily love, but they do want control.

My son and daughter both experienced the wrath. They both grew up thinking that they couldn't get it right. I continued to encourage and build them up in a positive light, but there was always the put downs and the finding of flaws. I always encouraged my children to respect their mother and insisted that they apologize when they were rude or disrespectful. I thought I was doing the right thing. She would get upset often and complain that she was never understood. You see, she was verbally abused by her dad and she passed it on to the next generation. Our children felt rebuffed frequently by her. She was the biological mother and she could still not bond. Apologies from arguments would end with the children apologizing and her standing rigid and refusing to hug and forgive their errors. My adolescent son, later committed suicide and I fear it was partly due to a well hidden lack of self esteem related to an abusive mother.

She appeared as a pained and angry lady often. She threatened to leave the house frequently and this really upset my children. The threats to leave were a result of their interaction with each other and she always yelled at them. I tried to make peace as best as I was able, but she never relented. I thought all was part of a normal relationship until I started reading about the effects of verbally abused daughters. It clearly articulated how the daughters of verbally abusive fathers were emotionally damaged during their childhood and how it left deep scars and often the adult children were unable to cope. When I read about these types of situations, I realized that I was not alone. I continually felt like I was walking on eggshells and was never able to please my spouse. Once the realization happened, I started to understand what I had been through and what I needed to do. I am in a truly, well disguised, abusive situation and will be exiting in a short while. I am making my plans as this is being typed. As my wife senses this, she is being really nice and trying to pretend like there is absolutely nothing wrong. She sets this stage often, then degrades, or abuses me subtly by pointing out the lack of vacations, or work done around the house. I have spent the bulk of my time tending to my wife's needs since the death of our son. She continues to point out how we never do anything together, yet we have taken several weekend trips to various locations and dine out at least four times a week. When we eat at home, I do a majority of the cooking. She sleeps till noon on the weekends and I do yard work outside in the summer while she rests. As this is occurring, she will put me down for the things that aren't being done around the house. Not necessarily a direct put down though it will be something like the grass needs to be cut or the walls need to be painted. No thought is given to the expense as we have spent all of our spare money and time traveling on weekends. Well it is because I am spending all of my time trying to take care of her. You see, the abused adult has an unfillable void and I am going to stop trying now because I am exhausted and need to take some time to take care of myself.

Advice to others includes, having enough self-respect to recognize abuse and get out of the situation. No one deserves that kind of treatment and by staying, you are enabling. I honestly don't know what took me so long to realize this. When you leave don't look back. You are actually doing both of the parties a favor. Don't stay for the sake of the kids. My daughter tells me I needed to leave and my son used to tell me how sad he was because he felt his mother didn't love him. My daughter is working through the trauma of being verbally abused by her mother. We talk frequently and my wife has shunned my daughter. My wife's only link of understanding is to her abusive father whom she continually still tries to please. This seems to be the only relationship in her life that is important to her. So get out and take the children. The abuser will not change. They appear loving, but it is a trap and they need a victim. Walk and don't look back. Counseling is not the answer unless the counselor knows about verbal abuse and is a specialist. Reconciliation is not recommended. If you are in an abusive situation, it will not get better. My advice is to get out and get out early. It is extremely hard as you get older and it is unbelievable what many people put up with before the light comes on and they leave. This advice is not gender specific because my research tells me that this happens far more often where men abuse their wives than it does where wives abuse their men. Respectfully submitted as a wise but incredibly late leaving enabler.

A reader of this Web site writes:

I haven’t been able to find many sites for abused men, so I felt very relieved to find this one. In fact, it appears to me that most people do not even think men can be victims.

I have a very passive nature but it has eroded into one that is angry and sometimes violent from ten years of constant criticism, control, degradation, and worry. Unfortunately, I have not sought help until now and have participated in the abuse myself. My self-worth has been so diminished that I now suffer from depression, and I am in constant worry of getting into an argument. This makes me angry and I cannot constructively deal with my anger because I am not allowed to share that with my wife. In fact, most of my emotions are deemed either petty or invalid.

I am under constant criticism, either overt or subtle (disguised as a joke) and can never meet expectations. My wife is often angry and it takes very little to invoke rage-like screams and cursing. I have been conditioned to question myself and have been told my dreams are unrealistic, selfish, or petty. I’ve been pushed, hit, kicked, had things thrown at me, deprived of sleep, suffered cruel indifference, spying, and much more. My wife screams at our children scaring one so bad he was shaking.

My friends who’ve stayed with us have all complained she made them feel unwelcome. I am isolated and rarely allowed to go and visit them without a confrontation. She controls the money, our children, our time, where we live and who we associate with. I am then blamed for the fact that she controls things but I am not allowed to have any control. I am constantly degraded and put down in front of her friends.

I always feel tension in the house. I never know what will set her off. She is supposed to take medication but took herself off it saying I was the real source of her anxiety (though she has elevated adrenaline levels). What I wear, do, eat is constantly made to appear negative.

Don’t let it eat at you like I did. Get help. I’ve retaliated and am now a participant in the abuse cycle and am trapped now by guilt more than ever. I am on medication and seeking counseling for depression. I now have sleep issues and stomach problems as well. I have tried every thing I can think of: appeasing, avoiding, reasoning, pleading, and now even physical confrontation. Please learn from me.

Editor of this Web site writes:

On the Helpful Info page of this Web site (http://verbalabuseofmen.com/HelpfulResources.htm) you will find Patricia Evan's book titled, "The Verbally Abusive Relationship"? I found chapters 3 and 4 of this book to be incredibly helpful in understanding the differences in realities that the abuser and the victim live in on a daily basis. It cleared up a lot of things for me and helped me understand why everything I tried to do to help never worked. If you haven't read this yet, I would highly recommend it. I found Patricia Evans to be the best author out there on the subject.

A reader of this Web site writes:

A reader of this Web site writes:

I am in my 2nd "loser" marriage, but at least now understand the how’s and why’s of my situation. My previous beliefs were more that G-d has something against me. I now understand that because of my past, of being bullied and like wise emotionally abused, I am a magnet for "losers" and "abusers." I am now in counseling and understand how and why I got into this "latest" mess. At least I no longer think that a higher deity has it in for me. I have a support group and am preparing my "escape" from the marriage. Unfortunately, it is not so straight forward because of the "cycle of abuse." I am looking for all the support and advice that I can get. Unfortunately, there are no men’s groups in my area; as you probably already know, for the most part, the "system" recognizes physical and emotional abuse on women but turns a blind eye when men are victims. I have a lifetime of being the victim behind me and am now trying to break the cycle. My latest situation is difficult in that my wife can be terrible and sweet on a dime.

Briefly, I was bullied and made fun of from grade through high school. I did go to university and obtained an engineering degree; barely got through the program to encounter a generally poor job market. In my late 20's and early 30's, I felt sorry for myself but finally started to turn things around in my early 30's. Unfortunately, I started to become attracted to "like" personalities, at least my perception of such.

I was down and out but pulled myself back up and became a self-supporting member of society. Yes, from time to time, I needed some help but overall was self sufficient. Unfortunately, I became drawn and attracted to women that I thought were like me; still, these ladies never really made it on their own. I felt comfortable with these "loser" types of personalities because I could identify with them. I became a "rescuer" of "damsels in distress"; I have been in and out of therapy for most of my life but only until I started going to therapy about my 2nd wife did I start to understand my situation.

I am in my 2nd marriage; my psychologist is trying to make me understand that my present situation is with a "loser" or "abuser" type of personality. My 1st wife was living at home with her parents when we were 1st introduced; she was living there more out of necessity. Very bright and well educated but drifting through her life.

Before my 1st wife, I was briefly engaged to a woman whom was schizo paranoid; my perception of "healthy" was very much skewed. We were together, and then separated, then back again. My guilt or love for her brought me back to a 2nd punishing round. I finally saw that no matter what I did, I could not stop people from spying on or following her. She got on a plane and literally flew out of my life; I got off easy. While we were together, I lost my job in a recession, my condo crashed in value and was foreclosed, and I had little in the way of savings; then my girlfriend "flipped" out.

Back to my 1st wife; I was on the rebound and was introduced to her. Other than not being very independent; living at home with her parents, she seemed "normal" to me. I could identify with her "frustration" about not finding a job to suit her education. By this time, I was getting to be fairly successful. After dating for about 2 years, I popped the question. We had a long engagement in which time my wife started to become angrier, less patient, and her endometriosis got worse. I still went through with the marriage. After a year, the economy was in recession and I was laid off. This time, I had significant savings. Still, my wife started to blame me for things that went wrong. She quit her job shortly after we were married; she blamed the pressure of the job and later blamed me for telling her to quit. My wife got "sicker" as the marriage progressed; she went from job to job and took "much" time off, she would be laid off after a few months. She wanted children and a home and blamed me for not having this. She no longer accepted the endometriosis but said that due to pressure of me not working and wanting to relocate, that the "condition" was caused by "stress"; we stopped having "relations" shortly after the honeymoon, literally. This marriage dragged on for close to 3 years; I finally filed when my then wife was reluctant to relocate to another city where the economy was booming.

I waited a year after I had filed for divorce with wife number one. I met wife number two over the Internet about 8 months later. We corresponded for about 6 months and seemed to hit it off at least on line. She was very intelligent, her writing was interesting and we could "talk" about anything. After 6 months of corresponding, I drove to her city and met her. She was extremely attractive; I could not understand why she was on line. I was there for 3 days; our 1st "date" was nice, a full day. What came out was that her previous marriage seemed to be much like mine! On our 2nd date, I told her that if we were to get serious that I realized that she had a son; I would take care of them both. After I was separated from wife #1, I sought counseling. The counselor told me to make out a list of what I wanted in a mate. She told me that I am not the same helpless person that I was growing up but successful and most important a good person; I deserved likewise. The 1st thing on my list was to be with someone that could stand on her own two feet. When I was 1st corresponding with future wife #2, she "seemed" to be "normal," separated for more than 4 years with a son and a home. After we met, she was moved out of her home and living in her sister’s home with the boy. All the signs of disaster were there but I looked the other way. Like most abusive situations, there was a quick involvement; within 2 months we purchased a condo together in my city, she "insisted." She then moved in with me along with her son; we were married within 6 months of the 1st time we physically met.

Shortly before we were married, she was exhibiting a "quick" temper, lack of patience and jealousy. The first of many jealous episodes happened shortly before we were married. We were watching a Sci-fi movie with some "sexy" robots; when I remarked "that’s what I call a robot" my future wife lost her temper and screamed at me for being so disrespectful. Episodes similar to this were rampant earlier in the marriage; I used to argue back but stopped after a while. My wife started to "discourage" me from going to a health club and participating in my outdoors group; there were single women there. She "discouraged" me from having "professional" women friends. My wife was married twice before me; she said that her 1st husband was "abusive" and cheated on her. She said that her 2nd husband was controlling and didn’t let her have a say in the finances. As the marriage progressed, my wife tried to pressure me to put her name on my investments and accounts; she apparently had "little" of her own. Her fear was that I would meet a younger, professional version of her and leave her. My wife cannot have any more children; I have none of my own. My wife thinks this an ideal situation and has pressured me to leave all my savings to her and the boy. My wife insists on going through my e-mails and my cell phone passwords. She sometimes calls me at work to make sure that I am there and not having an affair. One time, when I was at my lawyer’s she actually came to work to look for me.

I was very busy with work and didn’t have much time for "other" activities other than work and my "family." I started to see a psychologist at the urging of my mother; at the time I was isolating myself and only confided in my mother about my wife’s possessiveness, insecurity and jealousy. I thought that it was my wife that needed help and not me. After about 3 sessions, the psychologist said that I was being "abused"; the session before I told the psychologist that I was thinking about seeing a lawyer. During the 3rd session, she strongly recommended that I do so. For about a month, I waffled on seeing the lawyer; my "situation" was good and bad. I didn’t understand or believe the "cycle of abuse" or that my new wife was also a "loser." In a short period of time, my wife tried to pressure me to transfer much of money into "our" joint account; she accused me of "ogling" women and went into a blind rage when I told her that I wanted to go hiking with my outdoor group. My 2nd wife has fibromyalgia; see was "healthy" when we were 1st seeing each other but became "sicker" as the marriage progressed. She now works part time after being "ill" in the 1st few months of the marriage. I make more than 8 times what my wife does; at one point, anything after the basic bills was going toward her, the son and then more so to her family in Asia. I was paying the bills and my "family" was reaping the benefits. With the counseling, I became more aware of the situation; I am more assertive and my wife "lets" me out for hiking one to two times a month. I put the family on a budget and it seemed to be working. About her son; he is now 16 and in grade 11. The boy in many way takes after his mother; albeit not short tempered he has very little patience. He wants "instant" gratification. In junior high, he was at the top of his class, now there is more competition. At times he is very disrespectful of me but this is on the wane; he used to think that he would be a lawyer and make lots of money like his dad. Now he is more respectful of his mothers "engineer."

As you can imagine, there have been some very intense fights in the marriage. At one point, I told my wife I wanted a divorce; she later said that the "boy" would suffer so much and hate me forever. We are helping my wife’s mother out financially, more and more of late; sometimes we help out other members of her family in Asia. The mother is sick and albeit we could not afford to do so, my wife wants to visit her over Christmas. What started as an "understanding" about a "mercy" trip has turned into a 5 star spectacle. My wife bought thousands of dollars of "gifts" for the family and wanted to spend more. After some intense fighting, she finally stopped the "gift" giving. I put the family on a budget, was going out more with my hiking group; albeit things were still bad, at least I was getting myself together. My wife was starting to "pressure" me to go along with her on the trip; my wife also said that she needed $5,000 for her "personal" expenses on the trip. I realize that she wants me there to control me and that the money is really for more gift giving and showing off. We have had some terrible arguments of late; now about money and control.

I have scoped out some "temporary" accommodations should the situation get violent. I have also retained a lawyer and we will be sitting down to draw up the divorce papers and a "settlement" letter to my wife. I paid much in alimony to my 1st wife; my lawyer is saying that the sooner I file, the less I will pay. My psychologist is very familiar with abusive relationships and remarked how the law is flawed in that abuse is almost legalized, and how my wife will fare well whether she is still married to me or divorced.

I went to two lawyers, the 1st scared me that I may have to pay more than my life savings regarding my wife’s fibromyalgia; she later said that this is unlikely but I would probably pay a few thousand a month for 2-3 years. We have been married for about a year and a half. The 2nd lawyer said that the damage should only be about 6 months and that 2 years would be generous on my part. The issue is that my wife can act so "helpless" and then there is her son. Fortunately, we have no children and it is her son. Still, it would be messy considering the split of assets and how to support them until the boy graduates; I will work it out with my lawyer.

With the abusive cycle, it makes it very difficult for me to "pull the trigger." My psychologist is making me realize that the marriage is not healthy; I suggested to my wife to get help but she won’t, another trait of abusers. I hope to get courage soon and put an end to this "madness." My psychologist says that the only way to stop the abuse is to get out of the marriage. She says that I alone cannot change my wife; my wife can only change herself.

A reader of this Web site writes:

I am 38 years old. I have had two wives who were unfaithful. One while I was a work who exhibited many of the examples given. One who was unfaithful while I was in Iraq. My present wife was faithful which gave me a lot of hope. At least I believe she has been. That was enough. When we were dating she was affectionate. Much more than she is now. In fact I am the sole source of affection and I get pushed away the majority of the time. Simple put I am without common sense, I can never do enough. I work seven days a week. Seven. Sometimes on three hours of sleep. If I ask to help with something I am told often not to worry about it and then two weeks later I am criticized for it. I am questioned about how I did something or what I am doing the majority of the time. Its never right.

My daughter from my previous relationship is creatively scheduled absent from a lot that we do and she begins a mood swing just before she arrives. I once kept track of how often she was in a horrible mood. It came out to approximately a third of the month. For months mind you. I am blamed for the majority of any problems that come up. If I offer to help I am bugging her or it just gets worse. Case in point. Last week I took off two days to assist with the family so I could be there to help. I just took two more days off to help her. Tonight she asked if I could take tomorrow off. My work wouldn't allow it. I told her I was sorry and offered to stay up without sleep to assist in anything. I was told that I was bugging her, it somehow ended up all my fault and she dang near hung the phone up on me. When I talk to her about it later, in circumstances like this, she is just venting. I cant tell you how many times I have had to take off work to go home to settle a situation down because she is angry about something and my absence or something that I am not doing properly is the cause of her mood swing. She could be in a good mood and three hours later she is extremely ticked off and its all my fault even if I had little to do with what happened she will find a way to point it in my direction.

I spend the majority of my time asking her what is wrong, if she is mad, what I did etc. Constantly. She is affectionate at all. She hates my job, what it represents, hates my religion or choice thereof, and I'm stupid more or less. She talks to me like I'm a kid to be honest. I walk on egg shells a lot and constantly find myself wondering what I may do to make her angry. I could go on and on. Simply put this has been my first year with her. That's a summary. I miss, simply, "her". "Her" as I knew her. I could clean everything that I could find in the house and she would find something that wasn't done right or just plain wasn't done and focus on that.

She is very physical when it comes to discipline with the kids. She pulls hair, kicks etc. She calls them stupid etc. She will just go off about this and that and what isn't done and what I don't do etc. Constantly. Its completely unpredictable. She wants things done. She's in a bad mood and its my fault. Money. The house. I don't do much right. No common sense. The kids are spoiled rotten. My parents are idiots and don't think. My daughter from the previous relationship is without common sense and will someday be at risk for teenage pregnancy. Her daughter from a previous relationship is still afraid, at the age of nine, to sleep in her own room and sleeps on the floor next to our bed. Still. I sometimes wonder if she is afraid that her mother will stop loving her or leave or something. If the fluctuation of her moods has caused an uneasiness in her?

These are things that cross my mind. I don't know what to do. I really don't. Simply put. Its her house still. Although she could not sign her name on the loan because of her credit from her previous divorce and I ended up saying that I would cover the loan its still, in her mind, her house so when she is mad she tells me to just "pack my shit and leave". What do I do? I don't know what else to do. I have read articles in the computer. Numerous ones. I tell her constantly that I think she is attractive. I tell her constantly how much I love her. I bet I tell her that five or six times a day. I try to do the best I can to help. I don't know what else to do. I am completely frustrated and like I said .......... I miss "her".

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As you can see, if you are a victim of verbal abuse, you are not alone. Please send me your story, so I can post it on this page for others to read and help them to realize that they are also not alone. Together, we can help each other through the long, lonely, journey of recovery.

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